Hello and welcome to all! I’m finally back again with another blog post and today we’re talking about Phase Three: Tranquility. First, let’s have a quick recap since much time has passed. In-volution is a six phase process with cycles of transformation that we undergo throughout life. So far we have covered the first two phases: Disillusionment and Introspection. Disillusionment is like a realization that you are either unhappy with yourself, living a life not true to you, or disconnected from your true self as a whole. Introspection is the inner reflection of this realization you came to. You sit with yourself and think about the root of the problem so that you can begin to reconnect with your truth. Once you have taken the time to introspect, you’ll need time to be at peace with these old wounds you’ve uncovered, forgive, and let go. This time period I am referring to, is the Tranquility phase.
Now, I started writing these posts back in August 2020 and I noticed that as I wrote about the phases, in some form, my life mimicked these phases. I had to be able to flow through the phases so that I could formulate words to describe them. However, tranquility happened to be a big learning phase and now, I’m able to understand and explain it. When you search the word tranquility, you’ll most likely see images of nature such as trees, sunlight beams/clouds, waterfalls/oceans, etc.). Also, you may think of a more peaceful environment or emotion. I decided to see what tranquility actually means and here’s what I found.
Google Definitions:
Tranquility: the quality or state of being tranquil, calm.
Tranquil: free from disturbance, calm
Calm: not showing or feeling nervousness, anger or other strong emotion.
I am highlighting these definitions to say that I don’t think these definitions display the full meaning of tranquility. If you think about the word tranquilizer and also consider what tranquilizers do to the body, tranquility begins to seem menacing. I don’t know the full science of tranquilizers but in summation, it slows down the body through the brain. Why would a sedative-like state be menacing? Well because in the fast paced society we live in, the idea of slowing down is frowned upon. Tranquility feels like stagnancy and when we have so many goals and dreams we are trying to reach, feeling stagnant or blocked is the worst. I speak from my own experience when I say that. So then, when you are not comfortable with slowing down or the ebb and flow of life, tranquility can become a fight between control and trust. On one hand, you want to control the outcomes of life but only so much can be controlled and you’re also not trusting yourself to make said outcomes happen.
At the beginning of feeling so empowered from great introspective self-work, you expect to catapult into life. However, that tranquil stage is there because you need rest, regeneration,and rejuvenation. Tranquility is your sprouting but not your blossoming. In tranquility you learn to surrender, and in a way you are transmuting. All that you have uncovered during disillusionment and introspection, has to download and process. During tranquility, since it is a period of slowing down, it’s up to you how smooth it goes. If you are a person who can’t ever make time to rest and recover for your own wellbeing, then a tranquil state is your worst nightmare. This particular busy minded individual will feel like they aren’t doing enough, not moving fast, feeling stagnant and critical of themself. I stated earlier that tranquility was a big learning phase for me and this is why. When you don’t trust yourself, that means you don’t trust the universe. When you know who you are, you trust in yourself. When you trust in yourself, you trust in the universe. The reason tranquility must be experienced is because we have to learn to trust ourselves again. Through disillusionment and introspection, you uncover what is and is not of your truest nature. However, because that truth is unfamiliar, you are reluctant to rely on it. The problem with this in hindsight, is that it keeps you stuck in a cycle of self sabotage.I’ve had my share of self-sabotage and it tends to occur when trust is nonexistent. Exhibit A: I think of a great idea, maybe even come up with a plan, but instead of executing that plan, I never do it. I didn’t follow through because I don’t trust myself to succeed at the outcome. I self-sabotaged by questioning the idea, thinking it is not good enough, and procrastinating the process. This is all rooted in past traumas, core beliefs, etc. Within tranquility, the goal is to integrate the lessons from the previous phases so that you can accept the experiences in your life and begin to live from a healed mindspace instead of a wounded mindspace. In a healed mindspace, you acknowledge those false-self concepts that you have familiarized yourself with, and reprogram those thoughts to reflect the true self. The true self knows it’s capabilities, so when you can trust in who you are and not who you were, you begin to reach the calm state that google defines tranquility as. Trust in self means that you can now rest your mind. You no longer need to force things, be in control, worry, or fear that things will not go your way. Of course, we don’t know the divine plans of our lives, but we can get in alignment with that plan by simply trusting in who we were always meant to be.
A tranquil state can become peaceful once you trust. What do I mean by trusting yourself and letting go of control? I always had trouble understanding what that meant when people said it. I have decided that it means being in the flow. If you decide today that you will not second guess yourself and make decisions with intention, achieving your goals will flow more freely.
Example: You decide that you want to move to Canada for whatever reasons. You don’t worry too much about how or when you’ll get to Canada. All you do is just trust that you will do exactly what you said. Then, you’ll begin to make decisions that put you in alignment with exactly that. You will experience peace with the decision because you have already trusted in your capability as well as the help of the Universe, to deliver the results.
This is the art of tranquility: releasing, trusting, and being. Patience is the other lesson of tranquility that makes it a tough phase. Sometimes throughout constant movement in our everyday lives and stimulation from busy environments, tranquility is needed to gain clarity on the next correct step forward. This takes patience though, because clarity only comes as fast as you’re able to release, trust, and be. Getting into that calm(trusting) state takes time, but it is needed so that you can introspect again. Phases tend to overlap and during tranquility you need to introspect more to get out of the slowed down energy. Maybe you need to introspect on why you needed to slow down in the first place. Either way, once you slow down, things can be set into motion. Things have to pick up speed in order to go fast. Tranquility could be you “revving up the engine” for a load of work ahead or it can be a time to “put it in park”.
In the end, Tranquility allows you to germinate so that you are prepared for the fourth phase: Regeneration. In regeneration, you are literally transforming into your true self and moving away from the false-self. Without tranquility, growth is inhibited. A caterpillar knows to build its cocoon so that it can transform into its butterfly state. Allow yourself to cocoon and sit with yourself and thoughts. It’s hard to slow down but it helps you to see clearly.
Take Home message: Find your significance in your ebb and flow.
With Luv always,
Kyla